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 At
one time or another, we have thought about that old saying, "LOVE IS
BLIND." It might have been at that miserably mismatched wedding you
attended; Or, when your best friend forgave his or her partner the
hundredth time for the SAME CRIME; Or, after your divorce, and after
looking back with analytic contemplation, you finally saw the warning
signals of the person you ended up marrying; Or, perhaps it occurred
within the depths of your own soul when you had someone you love break
your trust.
The accumulation of
experiences like these lead you to wonder if you could ever... FOLLOW
YOUR HEART WITHOUT LOSING YOUR MIND.
In other words, is there really any explanation for why love is
blind? Do we have any hope for learning how to avoid marrying a
jerk or jerkette (for this program is for BOTH males and females)?
The answer is a resounding...
YES!!!!
Much, if not all, of
what a person will be like can be clearly predicted during dating. For
years, while conducting counseling sessions with relationally confused and
hurt clients, I searched through self-help books and thousands of pages of
research on the premarital relationship and the predictors of marital
satisfaction. I gleaned many valuable principles and insights.
However, I did not find any author who organized this plethora of information
into a pictorial model which would portray the delicate balance between your
mind and heart.
For your mind needs to
know what to look for in order to shape an accurate profile of the
person you are dating. And your heart needs to know how to keep
proper balances between the bonding forces which form the attachment in
your growing relationship.
Two of the most common remarks I have heard when counseling dismayed
spouses are:
"I should
have known better..."
and,
"I saw it
when dating, but I just overlooked it..."
 I
am convinced that these regretful reflections reveal the two most
prevalent sources to an unhealthy,
"blinding love."
The first, as indicated in the first remark, is an UNDER-DEVELOPED education
of the mind. Too many people simply do not know WHAT to look for
when dating.
The second source of minimizing problems is an OVER-DEVELOPED attachment
of the heart. In this case, too many people simply do not know
HOW to keep a dating relationship in balance.
It was these two needs which led me to develop a program to follow in the
premarital relationship and decision-making process. This program, referred to
as the P.I.C.K. Program (Premarital Interpersonal Choices & Knowledge),
contains a five-hour video series with participant workbooks. This can
be purchased and used by any individual. However, in addition, a
complete Instructor Certification Packet is also available for those who wish
to either present the videos and lead discussion groups, or actually teach the
program.
Based upon a thorough review of research pertaining to this subject, the P.I.C.K.
Program EXHAUSTIVELY and HUMOROUSLY describes:
THE
MAJOR AREAS THAT PREDICT WHAT A PERSON WILL BE LIKE IN MARRIAGE,
and
THE BONDING FORCES THAT MUST
BE KEPT IN BALANCE AS A RELATIONSHIP GROWS.
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